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Think hard before shaming children

Think hard before shaming children

harvard - 2 months ago

As a parent, its easy to slip into shaming your child. It can happen so easily, as you blurt out what you are thinking:

Do you really want to go out looking like that?
You let your teammates down during that game.
Why cant you get good grades like your sister?
Why do you hang out at home all the time instead of going out like other kids?
Why are you crying? Its not that bad.

As we blurt out such things, we usually dont think of them as shaming. We think of them as something that might help our child recognize a problem and perhaps motivate them to change. We think of them as constructive criticism.

The line between criticism and shaming

The problem is that there is a fine line between criticism and shaming and shaming is a bad idea. Heres why:

  • Sometimes children truly cannot change what is being shamed. Not everyone is a star student or athlete, we all make mistakes despite our best efforts, and some children are more sensitive or introverted than others, for example. We also cant always change how we look, which is why fat-shaming is a terrible idea.
  • Sometimes what is being shamed is part of a childs identity. Clothing choices are a good example, especially for teens. So is how and with whom a child chooses to spend their time.
  • Shaming may make children feel like they cannot change. Rather than motivating them, it may make them feel like they arent capable. And as a corollary and consequence
  • Shaming may make children feel bad about themselves. When the people you love the most, and whose opinion matters most, say bad things about you, it can be more than hurtful it can affect your self-esteem in ways that can become ingrained and permanent.

How to put a stop to shaming

To prevent shaming, we need to stop and think before we speak. There are two things you should always ask yourself if you are about to criticize your child:

  • Is this something they can change?
  • Is it important that they change it?

Be really honest with yourself about the answers, especially to the second question. If the answer to either one is no, then its not something to criticize, end of story. Dont take the risk of shaming or hurting your relationship with your child and dont waste your time or energy.

If the answer to both is yes, then ask yourself these questions:

  • Is this a good place and time to say anything?
  • Do they want to change this behavior?

Criticizing a child in public may be important, especially if they have been rude or hurtful to someone, or done something that could be unsafe. But outside of those circumstances, public criticism is shaming. It also may not be a great idea to criticize when a child is already upset, or when they are in a situation where they need to keep their composure or not be distracted; thats less about shaming and more about being kind and effective.

If a child really doesnt want to change a behavior, then you are going to have to think of a different way of managing it than just pointing it out. Which leads to the last and most important question:

  • Is there a better way of changing this behavior?

The answer to that is most likely going to be yes.

We do best as parents when we take the time to understand why our children do what they do and find collaborative, supportive ways to help them make safe, kind, and healthy choices. As parents, our words have power; as much as we can, we need to use that power for good.

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