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COMMENTARY: COVID-19 Diary Day 2: Insomnia -- The Mark of Medical Practice  - web md

COMMENTARY: COVID-19 Diary Day 2: Insomnia -- The Mark of Medical Practice

Don Dizon shares how he is dealing with the pandemic, knowing that despite COVID-19, people still need care, chemotherapy needs to be administered, and new patients are still coming in for evaluation.
web md - 14 hours ago
COVID-19 Hitting Some African American Communities Harder  - web md

COVID-19 Hitting Some African American Communities Harder

In states such as Michigan and Louisiana, as well as in cities like Chicago and Milwaukee, African American people are making up a disproportionately large number of COVID-19 cases and deaths, officials say.
web md - 14 hours ago
What’s it like to be a healthcare worker in a pandemic? - harvard

What’s it like to be a healthcare worker in a pandemic?

Millions of healthcare workers on the front lines of the fight against the coronavirus have a much higher risk of becoming infected, and are being put in further danger due to shortages of protective equipment, but they continue to do their jobs while adapting to current conditions. The post What’s it like to be a healthcare worker in a pandemic? appeared first on Harvard Health Blog.
harvard - 15 hours ago
No School Forces Many Medical Workers to Stay Home  - web md

No School Forces Many Medical Workers to Stay Home

About 29% of U.S. health care workers have children between 3 and 12 years of age, the analysis showed. In households without a non-working adult or a sibling age 13 or older to care for them, 15% of health care workers will require child care if schools close.
web md - 2 days ago
Mysterious Heart Damage Hitting COVID-19 Patients  - web md

Mysterious Heart Damage Hitting COVID-19 Patients

Most of the attention in the COVID-19 pandemic has been on how the virus affects the lungs. But evidence shows that up to 1 in 5 infected patients have signs of heart damage and many are dying due to heart problems.
web md - 2 days ago
Patients on Steroids With COVID-19 Might Need Rescue Steroids  - web md

Patients on Steroids With COVID-19 Might Need Rescue Steroids

Those on steroids because of known adrenal disease, and for more common ailments, may need additional 'stress' doses of IV corticosteroids in the case of severe infection with COVID-19, endocrinologists urge.
web md - 2 days ago
Lifestyle changes are important even if you take medications - harvard

Lifestyle changes are important even if you take medications

People who are prescribed medication for high cholesterol or high blood pressure may be more likely to gain weight and less likely to exercise, but for those who are on such medications, it's even more important to commit to making healthier lifestyle choices. The post Lifestyle changes are important even if you take medications appeared first on Harvard Health Blog.
harvard - 2 days ago
Test for Coronavirus Antibodies Approved by FDA  - web md

Test for Coronavirus Antibodies Approved by FDA

The test checks for protective antibodies in a finger prick of blood, revealing whether a patient has ever been exposed to the coronavirus and now may have some immunity, The New York Times reported.
web md - 5 days ago
COMMENTARY: NYU Med Student Joins COVID Fight:

COMMENTARY: NYU Med Student Joins COVID Fight: 'Time to Step Up'

New York med schools asked fourth-year students to graduate early and volunteer to help battle COVID. One student discusses how he weighed the potential life-or-death decision to join the front lines.
web md - 5 days ago
Coronavirus Hangs Around After Symptoms Subside  - web md

Coronavirus Hangs Around After Symptoms Subside

It took about five days from the time patients were infected until symptoms appeared, and about eight days before they disappeared. Patients were contagious for one to eight days, the researchers said in a news release from the American Thoracic Society.
web md - 5 days ago
WalMart Will Check All Workers

WalMart Will Check All Workers' Temperatures

Employees with a temperature of over 100 degrees Fahrenheit will be sent home for at least three days and may be advised to seek medical treatment. The workers will be paid for showing up for work, CBS News reported.
web md - 6 days ago
In Some Cases, COVID-19 May Harm the Brain  - web md

In Some Cases, COVID-19 May Harm the Brain

It's believed the brain can be damaged by viral infection whenever a patient's immune system overreacts to the virus. This immune system hyperactivity triggers a "cytokine storm" -- an overproduction of immune cells and their activating compounds, known as cytokines.
web md - 6 days ago
How does cardiovascular disease increase the risk of severe illness and death from COVID-19? - harvard

How does cardiovascular disease increase the risk of severe illness and death from COVID-19?

Initial investigation into COVID-19 focused on its respiratory effects, but a more recent report describes serious cardiovascular complications in people with pre-existing heart disease. How does this underlying condition increase risk for these people? The post How does cardiovascular disease increase the risk of severe illness and death from COVID-19? appeared first on Harvard Health Blog.
harvard - 6 days ago
Top 10 Must-Dos in ICU in COVID-19 Include Prone Ventilation  - web md

Top 10 Must-Dos in ICU in COVID-19 Include Prone Ventilation

With new European Society of Intensive Care Medicine guidelines on caring for critically ill COVID-19 patients covering more than 50 recommendations, Medscape asked one author for his essential top 10.
web md - 6 days ago
Top 10 Tips for Diabetes Telehealth Prophetic in Face of COVID-19  - web md

Top 10 Tips for Diabetes Telehealth Prophetic in Face of COVID-19

A new article sets the stage for routine virtual diabetes visits, offering 10 top tips that will undoubtedly be of use for transforming care during the COVID-19 pandemic, and likely for long afterwards.
web md - 6 days ago
Abortion Access Shifting in Some States Amid COVID-19  - web md

Abortion Access Shifting in Some States Amid COVID-19

In addition to challenges the coronavirus pandemic already poses to women seeking healthcare, several states have included surgical abortions as restricted procedures in executive orders related to COVID-19.
web md - 6 days ago
Ranitidine (Zantac) recall expanded, many questions remain - harvard

Ranitidine (Zantac) recall expanded, many questions remain

The FDA has not yet released the results of its testing of the heartburn medication ranitidine. The testing method used by the online pharmacy that originally alerted the FDA may have affected their results. The post Ranitidine (Zantac) recall expanded, many questions remain appeared first on Harvard Health Blog.
harvard - 6 days ago
Taking Stock - positively positive

Taking Stock

My intention is to walk this part of my life’s journey with a tremendous amount of compassion for myself and others. To navigate with as much positivity as I can muster, to set the intention to come out the other side knowing myself more, connecting a bit more deeply with the world outside my door even if it is over Zoom, and realizing that when push comes to shove, we sure as hell do know how to come together when faced with a difficult time. The post Taking Stock appeared first on Positively Positive.
positively positive - 6 days ago
FDA Requests Zantac Be Pulled From the Market  - web md

FDA Requests Zantac Be Pulled From the Market

Six months after independent testing first raised the possibility that popular heartburn drug ranitidine (Zantac) might break down into the powerful carcinogen n-nitrosodimethylamine (NDMA), the FDA has asked for the removal of all ranitidine products from the market.
web md - 1 week ago
EPA Didn’t Tell Residents About Gas Risks: Report  - web md

EPA Didn’t Tell Residents About Gas Risks: Report

A new government report has rebuked the U.S. Environmental Protection Agency for failing to tell residents about the health risks they face by living near facilities that release cancer-causing ethylene oxide gas.
web md - 1 week ago
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Saying Goodbye to One-Sided Relationships

Saying Goodbye to One-Sided Relationships

positively positive - 2 months ago

It takes a lot of self-love to walk away.

Saying goodbye to a friend or family member who doesnt really have your best interests is a process. You have probably known the truth for quite some time but you continued making excuses for their bad behavior. Its something we do frequently.

Shes probably really busy and forgot we were supposed to hang out tonight. Again. Its okay.

He probably forgot I wanted his extra concert ticket when he invited someone else. Its okay.

She didnt seem very excited for me when I told her I got published in a magazine. Im sure she has a lot on her mind right now. Its okay.

We constantly make excuses for insensitive behavior because its coming from someone we love.

If it were easy, we would say goodbye to any relationship in our life that wasnt a two-way street.

The problem is, its not that easy to call someone out or tell them youre no longer going to stick around while they continue their selfish ways. We like to tell ourselves were strong enough to walk away, but it takes time, courage, and a lot of confidence to accept youre not loving yourself by keeping this person in your life. It takes lots of self-love to walk away from a friend youve known all your life or a partner who you love because you know youre hurting yourself by keeping them around.

I have a friend who I used to call anytime something good happened to me.

We had been friends for many years and been through a lot together. Although we didnt have much in common as of lately, she was still someone I considered a friend. The problem is, every time we spoke on the phone, I could tell she wasnt really listening to what I had to say. It was almost as if she was just waiting for me to finish speaking so she could share her thoughts. It was rude, but I always just excused it by thinking, Well, thats just the way she is. Shes not a very good listener.

One of the last times we spoke, I was in the middle of a personal story when I heard a lot of noise in the background on her part.

I stopped talking when I heard her talking to someone else. When she got back on the phone, she didnt even acknowledge that I was in the middle of my story. She didnt apologize because I dont believe she was even aware I was telling her a story before her interruption. It made me really sad. It made me feel even worse when she said, It was great talking to you but I have to go. In the middle of my story.

For a moment, it hurt my feelings. Just for a moment. Then I became upset at myself. I realized this is how shes always been. Why do I get upset when others act the way theyve always acted and treat me the way theyve always treated me?

Like the friend who would reach out to me once in a blue moon, never asking how I am, or asking anything about me at all. All she would do is text me for a favor she assumed I would already do for her. Not asking for a favor but telling me. Because she knew Id probably say yes. That is not a real friendship.

Relationships cannot be one-sided. Its unhealthy and feelings get hurt. I have found myself many times in a one-sided relationship and I was always the person who would offer and never receive. I would present my friendship to them and the other person would gladly take it but never reciprocate.

I used to think, well thats just how I am.

When I care for someone, its with all of my heart. Ive always considered myself to be a nice person but sometimes people take advantage of that. I think its necessary to say goodbye to those kinds of people. There is nothing wrong with ending a relationship that is one-sided.

This message is for all of the sensitive people who dont want to hurt anyones feelings. The ones who always put others before themselves. Dont ever stop being kind. Your kindness is part of what people love about you and it makes you who you are. But dont let anyone interpret your kindness as a weakness. Those people are the ones we need to say goodbye to.

There is nothing wrong with saying goodbye to a fake friend.

There is nothing wrong with saying no to hanging out with people who never do the things you want to do. There is nothing wrong with loving yourself enough to recognize that you shouldnt keep the company of those fake friends who dont give you love back. Love yourself enough to say goodbye and walk away. Easier said than done; I know.

But we should love ourselves enough to recognize we deserve friends and partners who are as invested in our feelings as we are in theirs.


Jessica Mendez is a full-time writer living in Las Vegas, NV. She received her bachelors degree in psychology from NAU and her masters degree in family and human development from ASU. In 2018, she left her career in mental health to pursue a career in writing. She is currently working on her debut novel and a collection of bilingual poetry. Follow her on Twitter and Medium to read more of her work.

 

 

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